Have you ever reflected on the way you talk to yourself? What is the opinion that you have about yourself? Are you tough on yourself? Are you allowing yourself to make mistakes?
And now tell me… Are you treating your best friend the same way you treat yourself?
Usually, we are very wise and understanding with others while we beat ourselves up for the smallest things.
It seems natural to support our loved ones and to push them to think positively.
So, why is it so hard to do the same ourselves? Why are we trying to impress ourselves so much?
A common goal is to aim for extreme perfection which doesn’t exist.
Nothing is perfect by nature, but we can think about something that could be perfectly ideal for us.
Of course, we all have a different vision of perfection. What looks perfect to me might seem the opposite for you and vice versa.
Next time you catch yourself criticizing your behaviors, mistakes, words, etc… stop for a moment and imagine that you are your best friend.
What would you tell your best friend? How would you see that situation if you were not involved? How does it look from the outside?
Try to give that situation a different perspective. Think about the words you would address to your best friend.
You can write down your thoughts and words. Later on it would be helpful to read them again and perhaps add some more suggestions. New insights might come up as well.
Sometimes, we are tough on ourselves because we have been taught to do so.
For instance, our families, teachers, experiences and so on might have shown us that we have to be perfect in order to be successful. Also, mistakes are often seen as a sign of weakness and incapacity when they are actually fundamental to let us learn and grow.
Mistakes are important lessons and part of our life experiences.
From Today on, you can try to see yourself as a human being with their virtues and vices.
Be empathetic with yourself in the same way you would be with a family member or your best friend. Be understanding, do not judge yourself and see the situation from a different perspective. Give it different meanings. Do not jump to negative conclusions right away, give yourself a chance. And always love yourself unconditionally.
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